Friday, June 18, 2010

UNSEXY part I : What sexy is NOT!

I AM FED UP. I HAD TO VENT...

i do NOT understand some females. just...i mean...like, how do you NOT KNOW certain things unsexy? 

you don't realize the way you carry yourself?
those triffling- no-imagination-needed- same pose pictures, is just NOT SEXY? some of us (women) are infamous for being trashy...literally. i had a conversation with a young man about a young lady, and for him and his friends, this type of behavior is synonymous with her name...not the fact that she is a pre-med major, or is a sweet girl who can hold a good conversation...but the crude ensembles and that out there behavior is what comes to mind when they bring her up. He knows she is cool to talk to. but that's not how she puts herself out there, so who pays attention to that when double d's and an open invitation to hook up after the club is on the table first? 

that is so SAD! 

Don't get it twisted! i am a fan of sexy. but there are somethings that just ARE NOT! there is an undeniable and quite discernible difference between being confident and comfortable enough in your own skin to show a little skin, and being so insecure or misguided that you carelessly display all your skin! everything works in moderation. its more than just the clothes, its the total package in the way some of us carry ourselves that is the problem. i mean i get upset at them for not getting upset at themselves! 
if you were commercial, i would SUE the advertisement company...except YOU ARE the advertisement company and you are selling yourself short!! think about it. if all that was there were snapshots of some of these girls, what do you presume most would think these girls are selling? what ARE they selling? don't they realize everyday you are on display whether you like it or not? do you have high value or are you just discount? do you have substance or are you just a sugar fix for a temporary high? 

the sad part is, despite how intelligent or intriguing they may be beneath it, they have already spoken louder than any words possibly could; we have been deafened to your greatness by tactless desperateness, and even with all that potential, the garbage being presented precedes everything.

don't get me wrong. somebody somewhere will find it attractive. i mean, guys are guys, we are all human and made of flesh. but if you present your body like that is all you have to offer, then thats what they will take it as. you may get quite a few ogles but at what cost? your dignity? and lets cut men some slack. yes, many are shallow, but many are not. and even if the cleavage and booty bearing caught their eye, chances are it won't maintain it if thats all there is. you should be going for the type of guy who will find it sexy when you are wearing glasses, pajama pants and his t-shirt. it is a different level of sexy. and newsflash, they DO like a woman who treats herself like she is more than her assets (you are attracting men who do, its pretty OBVIOUS something must change, and you don't want that type of man anyhow). 

yes its your body. which is why you should be taking better care of it. you parade it around as though its an empty shell, as though its zenith of glory comes from increase in libido after a man stares, and then wonder why you get treated the way you do. they won't treat your body like a temple if you treat it like product on sale, cheaper on the weekends. ultimately, you should be able to dress how you want and act how you want. just be prepared for the consequences. how can we tell them to respect us when we don't respect ourselves? how can we get mad when they treat us like hoe's when that's how we treat ourselves?

why do some girls try so hard? some of us fail to realize how desperate we appear, putting so much effort in trying to look/be/appear sexy when that just defeats the purpose? you become caricatures. you already have sexiness in you, let it naturally come out. the sexiest is always the effortless. it is most attractive when you are comfortable with yourself, no matter who you are. 


on that note, 
Love. Compassion. Royalty!
Qu3eN G

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